Now Its About Who You Are

Retirement is not a time to sleep, but a time to become truly awake. To be truly awake is to have a real sense of your past, what is happening now and what might be.

If you have been busy all of your working life you can opt to live a busy active life but are you swopping business for another busyness to drown out the silence?

Once many cultures were mindful of the knowledge an elder had acquired, but now knowledge is instantly available through technology. Retirement means yo are no longer in competition with others, now is the time to distill your wisdom. You don’t have to be like anybody else or worry about what they think of you, only what you think of yourself.

There is no need to retire in the same way as every other soon to to retire or retired person. Retirement is a time to discover who you were meant to be now, because what you did has, or will soon come to an end.  No longer is your identity is based on what you do, now its’ about who you are.

How many sliding doors confronted you up to today?

Which doors did you choose to walk through and why?

What enhanced your identity?

What enhanced your self-esteem?

What have you learnt about yourself?

What do you need to do now?

Do you need some creative space to explore?

How can I help you now?

Getting Coached Around Retirement

My intention towards the end of September is to facilitate a series of group workshops around retirement. It doesn’t seem to be a hot topic unless it’s about financial advice and yet it is a vital part of living one’s life to the fullest.

Growing up as a child the questions are around what you will be. During a career the questions are around what have you become, what do you do, with possible sub-questions around what that involves, and with status around complexity, challenges, status and rewards. That whole structure disappears with retirement, so who then are you?

The questions we ask can be all important. The opportunity to use creative explorations can bring new insights. What will you become?

I have brought together a range of creative tools and techniques to allow discoveries to be made and reflectively marinated to allow new positive approaches life.

As your coach on this journey I look forward to working with you.

The first series of six workshops will be offered for £120.

If you would like to be on the first voyage, or have questions please let me know.

Towards Retirement And Beyond

The big transition!

After various conversations over time I began to focus on the experience of moving towards, through and into retirement, and what I might offer in support. I guess at first I thought I had it sussed, having previously worked on Released Not retired Or Redundant. But it became clear that whilst some practical and creative assumptions about age and redundacy are true for retirement, a deeper process takes place as the body ages and society begins to put you into a category you maybe don’t really recognise or even want.

It’s a phase of huge repurposing. Once you were a child of maybe 14 years old, and life however daunting lay before you, but along the way life as it does, reshapes what you once hoped for or expected. For forty years plus you were pursuing dreams, perhaps just surviving, and maybe pretending that at some point you as you were heading towards 70 your feet would stop scrabbling in the grit, allowing you to grab a space to work out what the hell was going on. Too often the ‘getting on with it’ means no time to reflect on who, and maybe what you are now. No thoughts around increasing your relationship with yourself and others. No getting your head around what comes next. Maybe it an old habit of pretending if you are busy nothing bad can touch you?

Age is linear and has a fixed outcome but that path does not have to be diminishing or boring, it be rich, funny and full of discovery.

As I work towards a supportive workshop/course that builds perspective, reslience allowing and encouraging reflective expression through the arts I would welcome any thoughts you may feel able to with me. kevinshome@me.com

May 2021 smile on you.

Kevin

Some areas of exploration

Developing a time line – a new approach Imagery in everyday life lateral thinking the power of simplicity in art appreciative inquiry tools for resilience relationships emotions

Some Resources For Today + a fun bonus

Resilience

I met Chris Johnstone whilst he was still lecturing at Bristol University. A softly spoken doctor with a huge experience that you can rely on. Easily understood, and simple graphics, followed by questions.

Coronavirus

https://www.covidviruspandemic.com

A great American resource whose focus is obvious from the name!

Flow

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi is a bit dry but he gently shows the outcome of his investigations into happiness, career choices and what it means to be in a flow state or as sports people would say, in the zone.

Appreciative Inquiry Questions

  1. You have been through challenging times before, tell your story about one where you came through it triumphantly. What helped you do so? What skills and strengths and inner resources did you draw on?

b.What did other people do that helped?

      2. Close your eyes and imagine for a few moments that you can see the world in two years’ time and we have come through the crisis well, how did that happen?

a. What did you do to help it happen?

b. How do you feel knowing you made a difference?

c. What did other people do to help?

d. How has the world/your community/your happiness changed for the better as a result?

      3. Reflect for a moment on your your answers so far. How are you feeling?

a. How will you keep supprting yourself?

b. What is one small thing you will do now to help other people come through the crisis well?

c. What makes you hopeful for the future?

My thanks to Dr. Nick Heap for his help in framing these questions