Towards Retirement And Beyond

The big transition!

After various conversations over time I began to focus on the experience of moving towards, through and into retirement, and what I might offer in support. I guess at first I thought I had it sussed, having previously worked on Released Not retired Or Redundant. But it became clear that whilst some practical and creative assumptions about age and redundacy are true for retirement, a deeper process takes place as the body ages and society begins to put you into a category you maybe don’t really recognise or even want.

It’s a phase of huge repurposing. Once you were a child of maybe 14 years old, and life however daunting lay before you, but along the way life as it does, reshapes what you once hoped for or expected. For forty years plus you were pursuing dreams, perhaps just surviving, and maybe pretending that at some point you as you were heading towards 70 your feet would stop scrabbling in the grit, allowing you to grab a space to work out what the hell was going on. Too often the ‘getting on with it’ means no time to reflect on who, and maybe what you are now. No thoughts around increasing your relationship with yourself and others. No getting your head around what comes next. Maybe it an old habit of pretending if you are busy nothing bad can touch you?

Age is linear and has a fixed outcome but that path does not have to be diminishing or boring, it be rich, funny and full of discovery.

As I work towards a supportive workshop/course that builds perspective, reslience allowing and encouraging reflective expression through the arts I would welcome any thoughts you may feel able to with me. kevinshome@me.com

May 2021 smile on you.

Kevin

Some areas of exploration

Developing a time line – a new approach Imagery in everyday life lateral thinking the power of simplicity in art appreciative inquiry tools for resilience relationships emotions

Some Resources For Today + a fun bonus

Resilience

I met Chris Johnstone whilst he was still lecturing at Bristol University. A softly spoken doctor with a huge experience that you can rely on. Easily understood, and simple graphics, followed by questions.

Coronavirus

https://www.covidviruspandemic.com

A great American resource whose focus is obvious from the name!

Flow

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi is a bit dry but he gently shows the outcome of his investigations into happiness, career choices and what it means to be in a flow state or as sports people would say, in the zone.

Appreciative Inquiry Questions

  1. You have been through challenging times before, tell your story about one where you came through it triumphantly. What helped you do so? What skills and strengths and inner resources did you draw on?

b.What did other people do that helped?

      2. Close your eyes and imagine for a few moments that you can see the world in two years’ time and we have come through the crisis well, how did that happen?

a. What did you do to help it happen?

b. How do you feel knowing you made a difference?

c. What did other people do to help?

d. How has the world/your community/your happiness changed for the better as a result?

      3. Reflect for a moment on your your answers so far. How are you feeling?

a. How will you keep supprting yourself?

b. What is one small thing you will do now to help other people come through the crisis well?

c. What makes you hopeful for the future?

My thanks to Dr. Nick Heap for his help in framing these questions