Now Its About Who You Are

Retirement is not a time to sleep, but a time to become truly awake. To be truly awake is to have a real sense of your past, what is happening now and what might be.

If you have been busy all of your working life you can opt to live a busy active life but are you swopping business for another busyness to drown out the silence?

Once many cultures were mindful of the knowledge an elder had acquired, but now knowledge is instantly available through technology. Retirement means yo are no longer in competition with others, now is the time to distill your wisdom. You don’t have to be like anybody else or worry about what they think of you, only what you think of yourself.

There is no need to retire in the same way as every other soon to to retire or retired person. Retirement is a time to discover who you were meant to be now, because what you did has, or will soon come to an end.  No longer is your identity is based on what you do, now its’ about who you are.

How many sliding doors confronted you up to today?

Which doors did you choose to walk through and why?

What enhanced your identity?

What enhanced your self-esteem?

What have you learnt about yourself?

What do you need to do now?

Do you need some creative space to explore?

How can I help you now?

Getting Coached Around Retirement

My intention towards the end of September is to facilitate a series of group workshops around retirement. It doesn’t seem to be a hot topic unless it’s about financial advice and yet it is a vital part of living one’s life to the fullest.

Growing up as a child the questions are around what you will be. During a career the questions are around what have you become, what do you do, with possible sub-questions around what that involves, and with status around complexity, challenges, status and rewards. That whole structure disappears with retirement, so who then are you?

The questions we ask can be all important. The opportunity to use creative explorations can bring new insights. What will you become?

I have brought together a range of creative tools and techniques to allow discoveries to be made and reflectively marinated to allow new positive approaches life.

As your coach on this journey I look forward to working with you.

The first series of six workshops will be offered for £120.

If you would like to be on the first voyage, or have questions please let me know.

Some Resources For Today + a fun bonus

Resilience

I met Chris Johnstone whilst he was still lecturing at Bristol University. A softly spoken doctor with a huge experience that you can rely on. Easily understood, and simple graphics, followed by questions.

Coronavirus

https://www.covidviruspandemic.com

A great American resource whose focus is obvious from the name!

Flow

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi is a bit dry but he gently shows the outcome of his investigations into happiness, career choices and what it means to be in a flow state or as sports people would say, in the zone.

After Coronavirus

As I write on April 22nd 2020, I am wondering what will unfold next. There are some signs of positive progress but nothing is immediately clear. Governments of various hues have had to borrow extraordinary amounts of money to support and whilst interest rates are very low, there will be a need to repay, and to make the repayments governments will need to see organisations functioning and paying tax and their employees paying tax, so there is an imperitive to get economies moving as quickly as possible which will not be as easy as it sounds.

The key questions that shape our future must be around what has worked well in this crisis? Of course there have been mistakes, but then anybody who has managed anything knows that imperfect people make imperfect decisions, and governments are no different. In democracies politicians are steered by voters each one of us can influence the future. Here are some more questions to prompt thinking. By all means try answering them straight away but the deeper answers will come as you allow them to bounce around in your subconscious. I’d love to hear your thoughts and maybe other questions that have come to mind.

  1. What has been your story in this pandemic?
  2. What are the good things that you have discovered about yourself?
  3. What things around you have brought you joy?
  4. What part has humour played?
  5. People have shown great courage and compassion in this crisis, how can this influence the future?
  6. Suppose you were given a magic wand by Harry Potter, and this wand required no spells just your words of direction and it would do your bidding. How would you instantly change things for the better?